TED演讲｜真正厉害的人，都戒掉了玻璃心！(6)

It was the saddest and longest night of his life as well. Now, I tried to explain what happened, but he said, "I don"t understand. If you saw I wasn"t calling you, why didn"t you just pick up the phone and call me?" He was right. Why didn"t I call him? I didn"t have an answer then. But I do today, and it"s a simple one: loneliness.
那也是他一生中最伤心漫长的一夜。当我跟他解释事情的经过，他说，“我不明白。你看我没给你打， 你为什么不打给我呢？”他说的对。我为什么不打给他呢？我当时无法解释，但我现在明白了，非常简单的原因：孤独。
Loneliness creates a deep psychological wound, one that distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking. It makes us believe that those around us care much less than they actually do. It make us really afraid to reach out, because why set yourself up for rejection and heartache when your heart is already aching more than you can stand?
孤独导致深重的心理创伤，扭曲我们的感知能力，剥夺我们的思考能力。它使我们相信身边的人不再在乎我们。它使我们不敢与人联络，为什么给自取其辱被拒绝呢？你的心痛的还不够多么？
I was in the grips of real loneliness back then, but I was surrounded by people all day, so it never occurred to me. But loneliness is defined purely subjectively. It depends solely on whether you feel emotionally or socially disconnected from those around you. And I did. There is a lot of research on loneliness, and all of it is horrifying.