TED演讲｜真正厉害的人，都戒掉了玻璃心！(11)

and only when he verified I didn"t have a police record, could I show him I had a twin in the front seat. But even as we were driving away, you could see by the look on his face he was convinced that I was getting away with something.
直到他验证了我并没有犯罪记录，我才有机会解释，我和副驾驶座位上的是双胞胎。但是直到我们开走了，你仍可以看到他的表情，他认定我一定干了什么坏事。
Our mind is hard to change once we become convinced. So it might be very natural to feel demoralized and defeated after you fail. But you cannot allow yourself to become convinced you can"t succeed. You have to fight feelings of helplessness. You have to gain control over the situation. And you have to break this kind of negative cycle before it begins.
一旦我们认定了的事情，我们很难改变看法。所以当你失败了，感觉士气低落是很自然的。但是你不能允许自己相信你不可能成功。你要和那种无助的感觉斗争。你要重新控制局面。而且你必须在这种负能量循环开始前打破它。
Our minds and our feelings -- they"re not the trustworthy friends we thought they were. They"re more like a really moody friend, who can be totally supportive one minute, and really unpleasant the next. I once worked with this woman who, after 20 years marriage and an extremely ugly divorce, was finally ready for her first date. She had met this guy online, and he seemed nice and he seemed successful, and most importantly, he seemed really into her.