TED演讲｜真正厉害的人，都戒掉了玻璃心！(12)

我们的想法和感觉，它们不是像我们想象的那么忠诚的朋友。它们更像是一个非常情绪化的朋友，有时非常支持你，而有时令人不愉快。我以前的一个女同事，她结婚20年之后离婚了，婚离的很惨烈，然后她终于准备好开始新的约会了。她在网上认识了这个男的。他看上去人很好，也很成功，最重要的是，他似乎对她非常感兴趣。
So she was very excited, she bought a new dress, and they met at an upscale New York City bar for a drink. Ten minutes into the date, the man stands up and says, "I"m not interested," and walks out. Rejection is extremely painful. The woman was so hurt she couldn"t move. All she could do was call a friend. Here"s what the friend said:
她非常兴奋，还为约会买了新裙子，然后他们约在纽约的一个高级酒吧里喝一杯。约会才进行了10分钟，那位男士站起来说，“我没兴趣了，”然后就走了。被拒绝是极其痛苦的。这位女士非常受伤，以致于都动不了了。于是她给一个朋友打电话。她朋友是这样说的：
"Well, what do you expect? You have big hips, you have nothing interesting to say. Why would a handsome, successful man like that ever go out with a loser like you?" Shocking, right, that a friend could be so cruel? But it would be much less shocking if I told you it wasn"t the friend who said that. It"s what the woman said to herself. And that"s something we all do, especially after a rejection.