TED演讲｜真正厉害的人，都戒掉了玻璃心！(14)

但是我们经常如此对待心理伤害。为什么？由于糟糕的心理保健意识。因为我们不重视心理健康。很多研究表明，如果你的自尊心低落，你就更容易感到压力和焦虑， 失败和拒绝会伤害你更深，
and it takes longer to recover from them. So when you get rejected, the first thing you should be doing is to revive your self-esteem, not join Fight Club and beat it into a pulp. When you"re in emotional pain, treat yourself with the same compassion you would expect from a truly good friend.
你也需要更多的时间复原。所以如果你被拒绝了，首要的事情是应该重新激活你的自尊心，而不是去拳击俱乐部打拳来发泄。当你在经历感情上痛苦，像一个真正的好朋友那样同情你自己。
We have to catch our unhealthy psychological habits and change them. And one of unhealthiest and most common is called rumination. To ruminate means to chew over. It"s when your boss yells at you or your professor makes you feel stupid in class, or you have big fight with a friend and you just can"t stop replaying the scene in your head for days, sometimes for weeks on end.
我们需要改变不健康的心理习惯。最常见又最不健康的习惯之一就是穷思竭虑。就是事后反复咀嚼回味一件事。比如你的老板冲你发脾气了，或是教授在课上让你感到愚蠢，或是你和好朋友吵架了，然后你不断的在脑海里回放当时的情况，好几天，甚至好几个礼拜都不停。
Now, ruminating about upsetting events in this way can easily become a habit, and it"s a very costly one, because by spending so much time focused on upsetting and negative thoughts, you are actually putting yourself at significant risk for developing clinical depression, alcoholism, eating disorders, and even cardiovascular disease.