TED演讲｜真正厉害的人，都戒掉了玻璃心！(13)

“那你还想怎样？你又胖又没有什么好聊的，为什么任何一个英俊的成功男士会和你这样的失败者约会呢？“ 太不像话了，是不是，朋友怎么可以这样冷酷无情？这或许听上去不太过分，要是我告诉你这话不是朋友说的。这其实是那位女士对她自己说的。我们都干过这事儿，尤其是被拒绝之后。
We all start thinking of all our faults and all our shortcomings, what we wish we were, what we wish we weren"t. We call ourselves names. Maybe not as harshly, but we all do it. And it"s interesting that we do, because our self-esteem is already hurting.
我们开始去想我们犯的错，我们的缺点，我们要是这样就好了，我们要是不那样就好了，我们给自己起外号。也许程度不同，但我们都干过这事。我们为什么会这样做。我们的自尊已经被伤害了。
Why would we want to go and damage it even further? We wouldn"t make a physical injury worse on purpose. You wouldn"t get a cut on your arm and decide, "Oh! I know -- I"m going to take a knife and see how much deeper I can make it."
为什么我们要进一步伤害它呢？要是身体受伤了，我们不会故意去把它弄的更糟。你要是胳膊上有个伤口，你不会说，“啊，我知道！我要拿刀看我到底能捅多深。“
But we do that with psychological injuries all the time. Why? Because of poor emotional hygiene. Because we don"t prioritize our psychological health. We know from dozens of studies that when your self-esteem is lower, you are more vulnerable to stress and to anxiety; that failures and rejections hurt more,